Letting go isn’t easy when it comes to forgiveness. Letting go of anger, anxiety, and hurt someone has caused you is difficult, especially if that someone is you. Sometimes you may harbor guilt and choose not to forgive yourself. Despite how many times you’ve tried to let go, toting around unnecessary and unhealthy emotional baggage has affected you in some way.
Have you had trouble sleeping, or concentrating at work or in class? Or, are you irritable, or having trouble maintaining meaningful relationships? Do you feel like you’ve been chasing your tail and can’t seem to make any real progress on your goals? Or, if your unresolved feelings have not done anything but taken a little bit of your joy, that’s still too much!
Maybe you think everything is okay and you feel great. And, I hope you’re right. If you are struggling with forgiving yourself for past mistakes, judgment errors, or need help starting the process, here are three powerful reasons why you deserve forgiveness today.
1). You are worthy of forgiveness.
You are worthy of true forgiveness because it’s your birthright, and you are likely great at freely forgiving others. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness is about the forgiver. Yes, it’s all about you. To forgive means to let go of the anger, resentment, and pain associated with someone who has hurt you or an offense.
Extending forgiveness doesn’t mean that you condone or approve of the offense, but you let go of the negative emotions surrounding it. Although it may be hard for you to forget the offense, you can try to forgive the pain associated with it.
What can you do if you find it hard to forgive yourself? First, realize you are only human and deserve forgiveness like anyone else. Then, try to think about what happened. Maybe you’re being too hard on yourself. Did everything happen the way you remembered it? When we want to condemn, our minds can play tricks on us to our own demise.
Finally, remember you can forgive yourself for the offense by releasing the guilt and pain associated with it so you can live in the present
2). You are not the same person anymore.
Although you are still human, you have grown, matured, and learned from your mistakes. Therefore, it’s unfair to hold yourself accountable for anything in the past because you are clearly not dealing with the same person. For example, how can you punish a 15-year-old teenager for what he did when he was 10 years old? You can’t because it doesn’t make sense. If you’re holding on to excessive baggage from the past, you’re basically punishing your current self for what your past self-did. And, it doesn’t make any sense.
Please realize you’re not the same person you were yesterday, last week, last month or last year. You deserve true forgiveness because you’ve earned it by learning from your mistakes, growing, and maturing and having a desire to do better in your life.
3). You deserve to live a happier life.
Carrying unnecessary baggage around is not good for you. Chiropractors usually say that carrying large, heavy purses is bad for your posture and back because it compresses the spine, causes you to lean forward and slouch, and can eventually cause long-term damage.
The same principle applies to the long-term damage to your mental and emotional health caused by holding on to excessive baggage you can now let go of. You deserve to live a happier, much freer, and healthier life without worrying about the mistakes you once knew in the past. Think about how much lighter your chest area and shoulders would feel if you released anxiety and negativity associated with the personal mistakes you’re holding on to.
In addition, remember you are only one person and who is normal, and probably going to make major and minor mistakes in life just like everybody else who’s living their day to day life.
Did you know the regret you’re feeling about any mistakes you’re beating yourself up about is preventing you from reaching your full potential? You’re not present because you’re still living in the past. Ask yourself this: what could I accomplish if I let go of the pain and regret, and showed myself a little empathy?
If you or someone you know are struggling with forgiveness, please know that you don’t have to continue to struggle alone because there’s help available. I created a fabulous workshop, The Forgiveness Strategy, to help women just like you successfully work through your forgiveness issues.
The Forgiveness Strategy is a new premiere workshop to help you understand the importance of embracing the forgiveness you deserve and why. Women leave the Forgiveness Strategy workshop feeling empowered and excited about their new forgiveness journey to true self-forgiveness.
Attendees will learn what forgiveness is and is not, how to give themselves, permission to forgive and who deserves forgiveness. Please visit the events page to stay tuned for current workshop presentations.